Birthday Post: Five Lessons for Twenty-Five

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A couple of weeks ago I celebrated my 25th birthday (woohoo!). There is a big difference between the reality vs. expectations of turning 25. I can’t say the difference is bad. It’s becoming more obvious that our lives becomes less linear and way more confusing as we grow older…but hey, maybe that’s okay.

Honestly my expectations were kind of boring & left little room for spontaneity (yawn). I never expected that I would be running a blog on the side, or getting certified in POP Pilates, or that I would be meeting some of the amazing people who are now in my life.

With the successes there were also struggles; last year was filled with many emotions. I’d switch between feelings of uncertainty and anxiety to happiness and confidence within a day or even hours. There was a bit of intentional change & unexpected change in my life and it had left me emotionally exhausted (READ: Maybe This is What Quarter Life Crisis Feels Like?).

However, like always, with the good & the bad there were learnings. Plenty of them. And I’ve chosen my top 5 lessons to share for the big 2-5.

Mental health is as important as physical health

It feels like society wants us to be super humans. How many quotes do you see floating around on social media that go like “You can conquer everything!”, “You are Wonder Woman!”, “Rise & Grind,” etc.? They all are with good intention but they neglect how we actually feel and focus more on what we do – even if it doesn’t feel right. With fitness especially, there’s a disproportionate amount of emphasize on the physical. How about we leave a little more space for our minds?

Respect everyone’s time (including your own)

Time is precious & it should be respected. It’s so important to set boundaries for what you are willing to do with your time then allocate it to your work, your personal life, your family, & friends. When it comes to making time for your family & friends do your absolute best to prioritize them in your crazy schedule. Oh, and invest time in those who will make time for you in return.

Don’t waste time on a flat tummy

I can’t tell you how much time I spent in my early 20s trying to get “the perfect body”. I wasted so much time scrolling through blogs & Instagram hoping I’d one day have abs like those I see online. Did it make me feel better? No. Are people going to love me more if I have a six pack? No (well, maybe if I had a six-pack of beer :)).

Think about about all the people you love: if they gained 10 lbs, would you love them any less? No, right? Then why do we care about of own bodies so much as if we need external validation? Take that wasted time and focus your energy on something more fulfilling.

Patience is hard, but important

As millennials when we want something we want it now. Personally, I’ve been impatient with my career, my blog, literally anything you can name. I’m slowly starting to learn that success comes by chipping away at want you want, bit by bit.

Embrace your community

I’m a bit of an introvert so I have a tendency to do things on my own, (somewhat of a lone wolf I may say). Although I do enjoy my independence, I am so much better off with a supportive community around me. This past year I’ve expanded my circle of trust and have let others teach me a whole lot, but more importantly, give me the confidence to continue to do what I love.

So if you are anything like me, realize that there are people who can help elevate you. Trust them, mingle a little, and expand that little (or big!) circle.

Author: Akansha